Engagement Announcements?
Okay, I'm getting married in fifteen months. My fiance's family hates me, and my family and I have gone our separate ways years ago. We've been engaged since Christmas. I work full-time and am in school and he's a full time student, and we are throwing the wedding ourselves. I'm wondering if I should send out engagement announcements, because only a few people know we are actually getting married. But I'm wondering if this is stupid or not, since I'll be sending out Save the Date cards in like, January? Also, the cost isn't an issue. I work at a Jewelry Repair shop and we get free access to a printing shop near by. And I took graphic design as did several of my friends. So Cost is not an issue for anything, I just wanted to know if it was idk expected or what, for me to do. Or if it was just flat out dumb and pointless.

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What to do about the future mother-in-law who says inappropriate things?
So, my fiancee and I just got engaged. I have met his mother a few times and she always acts nice in front of me but behind my back she has said things to my fiancee that are against me. Once she told him not to buy a nice table for our apartment because I might fight him for it if we break up. Although I paid for 2 vacations and pay half (sometimes more) of all expenses, she warns him about me being a moocher. And during our engagement announcement at his family party, she started talking about his ex-girlfriends saying "I like you the best although I did kinda like this one girl he dated before." I protested by saying "I don't think I want to hear this right now" which made everyone laugh but she still continued. What do I do? Ugh

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Going to a wedding on saturday and the bride wants me to be a bridesmaid?
On saturday my fiance and I are going to the wedding of one of his friends. Well I don't know the bride at all and barely know the groom. I only know him through my fiance. Well one of the bridesmaids has pulled out of the wedding which has upset the bride because she has insisted on 4 bridesmaids and is now left over with a dress. Her maid of honour suggested she looked through her guest list to find someone who would fit in the dress. As it turns out only I fit in the dress, thought it looks bad on me. The dress was intended for an 11 year old who has a chest and some curves, I'm 24 and completely flat chested and I look like a stick because I am too skinny. I felt like an idiot in the dress. It's completely different to the other bridesmaid dresses because the dress is for a junior bridesmaid not an adult bridesmaid. The bride is pressuring me to be a bridesmaid even though I don't want to. I don't know her, I don't really know anyone attending the wedding. She's told me if I don't be her bridesmaid she's either going to not let my fiance attend the wedding or she's going to cancel the whole thing. She's been a complete diva through her whole wedding planning - I wrote their engagement announcement for the local paper and she had me rewrite 16 times and then we went with the original. What do I do? I really don't want to be a bridesmaid but I don't want to ruin the day or be the reason my fiance can't go to his friend's wedding.

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How come people like to psychologically injure me for their fun and hapiness ?
People always downgrade me for getting an arranged marriage even though it is common in my culture of vietnamese. I'm getting one because i was having problems with dating, My mother and my aunt found a girl for me to be friends with from vietnam. I'm in the united states and I'm friends with the girl until they finished observing if she is a good girl or not. Recently, They approve me to marry her and they made an engagement announcement in vietnam. I told my friends and my aunt and cousins who lives in the states and they laughed at me, they said you can't get a date so you marry a poor country girl in vietnam, pathetic, why can't you get an american wife. They said the girl will leave as soon as she gets the green card, they told my other cousin on my dad's side and guess what, his wife is still with him. I'm not into americans, I'm only into asian and vietnamese girls. How come people like to psychologically injure me for their fun and happiness ?? My aunt and my cousins who are in the states says they get thrills out of injuring my mind.

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Time frame for important wedding stuff for long engagement?
I just got engaged to my fiance of 4 1/2 years :D. Even though I'm very excited, my fiance proposed a little sooner than I though he would. I know I want to marry him so of course I said yes but we decided on a longer engagement (after we graduate). So, as of now our wedding isn't until July 28, 2012! So the questions I have now are: Should we send out engagement announcements? Should we have an engagement party soon or closer to the wedding? When should I actually start planning? Any other tips are greatly appreciated :)

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What are the first steps to take after being proposed to?
I have a lot of family and friends that are anxiously awaiting my call for when I am engaged. I've been with my now live-in boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. Because of the level of excitement from both family as well as friends, I'm pretty sure it's coming soon. When is a good time to contact everyone? Is it traditional to call my parents first thing before anything else? How soon after he proposes should I start making calls and how soon should I send out engagement announcements? Do I need to send them to all family and friends even if I may not be inviting all of them to our wedding? I am just wondering how to go about all of this ahead of time. Any advice is welcome except of course from trolls. Thanks in advance!

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What to do about Engagement Announcement rec'd from Internet correspondent?
I received an Engagement Announcement (clearly not a wedding invitation - it said the wedding would be small and only a few close friends and family would attend) from a person I know only through the Internet. I did correspond via e-mail with her for several years, and have spoken on the phone with her a handful of times. She did start sending me Christmas cards and Christmas presents (home baked goodies, a book, etc.) and at the time I did NOT reciprocate or add her to my gift exchange list since I can only afford to exchange gifts with a few close family members (in my family we basically only buy gifts for children and for ONE other adult - we draw names out of a hat each year for the adult gift exchange). Now I have received this engagement announcement. I know absolutely nothing about her fiance since she broke off all Internet correspondence (with everybody, so far as I can tell) when she met him. They are both in their 50s or 60s and (so far as I know) do not need household "start-up" items that one might give a younger couple. So what is an appropriate response to this Engagement Announcement? Is a card enough?

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Ex threatening to take full custody if he marries me?
I posted this issue previously but since i put in a little too much info about our relationship most answers werent directed to the custody problem. Basically i have been dating an older man, he is 35 i am 18. (yes ive gotten all the grief from the previous answers) were taking it slow, we are getting engaged and it we will take our time with it until we are both ready. i am still going to college. i also do summer courses to get done earlier. he supports whatever i want to do in life. i also have an IUD in so there wont be anything to worry about for a while. i only mention this because it was talked about in the previous answers. i understand i am young, and i understand that i will change in a lot of ways but thats not what i want to discuss. He was previously married and has 2 young children from that marriage. a 2 year old girl and a 6 year old boy. He married when he was 20 to his high school sweetheart and they were married for 9 years. shes 37. the marriage has legally ended and they worked out a custody plan (before i was in the picture) that he gets the kids monday morning through friday morning and she has them for the weekend basically. He owned 2 houses which he gave one to his ex. So now that we have a relationship, i am around the kids often. at first they were shy around me and asked him who i was. to make them feel more comfortable i started playing with them, going out with them and their dad and doing whatever they like. i thought it would be a good idea since i was a stranger to their home and they saw their dad being close to me (holding hands, sitting close, etc) and the two people they are use to is mom and dad, and also the grandparents. So when i was mentioned to the ex she disliked me right away. and he and also his parents asked why a couple times and she only said "the age" at first. just those to words. she never has spoken to me. ive tried and family gathering and she actually walks away. she has never spoken a word to me. so yesterday my boyfriend and I took the kids to the aquarium and we had a blast. the kids really enjoyed it and so did we, all of us spending time together, it actually felt nice. yesterday night the whole family (grandparents, siblings, kids, and the ex) got together with us for dinner at this new restaurant. we both decided to make our engagement announcement and honestly, everyone was thrilled. except her. then the aquarium was mentioned because the kids were talking about it and she flipped. She said she doesnt her kids near me and my presence. and she basically said she will take him to court and take full custody if he continues on with the engagement and he marries me and she said any judge would side with her. i really dont think thats a valid reason for a custody battle. And theyre his kids too right? if he wants to spend time with all of us is that wrong? Its not like i have to take care of the kids on my own, they had this custody agreement long before me so i dont see what has changed that would make him unable to take good care of them.

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Why do white people over celebrate weddings?
In America anyway. I mean there's the promise ring--engagement ring--wedding band, bachelor and bachelorette parties, engagement announcements, pictures and parties, rehearsal dinners, ceremony, reception, honeymoon, etc. What else? I know I'm probably missing some. Given the rate of divorce, why not just make it simple? Why all this over-celebration? Where I come from we just do it. I mean, get married and stay married for better or for worse, literally. There are no long azz engagements and over celebrating until you're broke and then can't even afford a place to move into after you say "I do." Might as well add in a divorce ring to it once you get divorced.

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Do I tell or leave it alone? HE IS A PLAYER!?
So I barely know this couple but I am dying to know if I should tell or try to keep it to myself. If it were me, I'd want to know. Here is the situation: I have a roommate (who can easily be replaced) who just got engaged. I have no attachment to him in anyway. He has an infant child with an ex-girlfriend (he says he is requesting a DNA test because she said the child might not be his). He is always asking to be hooked up with a female because there is no love connection between the mother of his child and him. They only speak due to the child. Okay, whatever. Not really my business. So he says he is single lookin to mingle. He has only been a roommate for about 4 months. I wanted to get the scoop on this guy. When I did a background check nothing came up. So after trying multiple names I was able to get on his facebook page to check him out. He doesn't know I was on there. This week on fb he announces he is engaged to the mother of his child and they will be setting a wedding date. She is head over heals in love with him so she is blinded by the obvious...he is a player! A day after his engagement announcement he texts me saying he doesn't have a love connection with her, never will, doesn't want a future with her, and wants me to hook him up w/ a co-worker of mine. As he is texting this I already became aware he is now engaged and ask him multiple times I think him and his childs mother have something going on. He denies it! I don't care if he stays or he goes...but I really don't want to look at a liar and cheater in my home everyday! If he lies about that, what else has he or is he lying about??? I thought about telling her because if my boyfriend cheated on me I would want to know so I can stop wasting my time. I have no love interest in him if anyone thinks its a jealousy thing (because we live together). He is definitely not my type...I wouldn't room with somebody I liked. I kept all the text messages. Do I tell her? She is such a sweet girl and I don't want her to ruin her life.

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Is it tacky to post your engagement announcement in the paper?
I know that people used to do this all the time. But now with networking sites like Facebook and Myspace people seem to be in touch with everyone a lot easier than they were before. Is posting the engagement announcement in the news paper important/necessary anymore? Thanks!

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Am i obliged to send a wedding gift?
I have tried for 14 yrs. to get together w/ my third cousin and her family, who I actually only had met about 5 yrs. prior and we saw each other 3-4 times per year for a while. These last many yrs.she always claims to be busy when I ask. to see her. We live 80 mi. from each other. I gave up calling 10 yrs. ago, because she rarely returned calls. Our daughters are somewhat friendly and get together occasionally. The girl is getting married and my daughter reluctantly agreed to be a bridesmaid. My husband and I were shocked to get an engagement announcement. we sent a gift, & got a thank you. NOw, we are invited to the wedding, & we are not going. My daughter feels since we have no contact that sending a gift is not necessary. The girl was 13 when we saw her last. Honestly, I always thought one should send a gift regardess of attending or not, but in this case, I don't think I will. I'll send the response card back, of course.

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Is it rude to send "engagement announcements" to people who are not invited to the wedding?
My soon to be mother in law mentioned engagement announcements for people who are somewhat friends, but will not be invited to the wedding. When I asked her why, she said it would be nice to let them know, and an opportunity to get a few more gifts. I feel as if that is a bit rude, but she insists that it's common practice. Is that true? Or is it really rude? I told her maybe it would be better to send engagement announcements, but without the intention getting gifts, and she responded with "well, you do that anyway but most people would get you a gift". So if we DO do this we would probably register somewhere, and people will just figure it out by asking our parents. Still, it all seems so rude to me. What do you guys think? Thought so. I'll just tell her to wait until after the wedding, and she could send "wedding announcements" if she wants to. Ugh. We're paying for the wedding, and she's paying for the rehearsal dinner. So she will NOT get her way in things, but I am having to fight with her for control over MY wedding >< My groom is the one who asked me what I thought. So let's not play the "do yourself a favor and don't marry him" game.

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they sent "save the date" but no invitation to follow?
a friend of mine sent out "save the date" cards to EVERYONE they know, and not planning to follow up with an invitation. they think it is like an 'engagement announcement' but most of these people will not be invited to their smaller sized wedding- so what are the others saving the date for? these people do not understand the purpose of 'save the date'.... WHAT IS THE REAL PURPOSE Of the "save the date" card?

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I just got engaged but we are planning the wedding for 2012. Do I still send out engagement announcements now?


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